Addicted to Pain (And How To Rewire For Pleasure + The Soft Life) ♡

In Today’s Glow Drop…

🥀 Why You’re Addicted to Pain (Even When You Crave the Soft Life)
🧬 The Science Behind Why You’re Stuck in the In-Between Worlds
💌 The Pleasure Rewiring Ritual I’m Using in Dubai to Magnetize More Love, Money, & Opportunities While Doing Less

Today’s edition is a little less mystical and a little more scientific.

Ladies, I’ve been in Dubai for a few days now…the energy is so different here. It’s ambitious but not in that hustle-burnout-masculine boss babe way.
It’s much softer than the States and I’ve never felt more aligned.

Somewhere along the way, I got pulled into the old “take over and make millions” energy side of social media. The boss babe blueprint messaging that’s everywhere now.

And for a minute I kind of let it seduce me again. I’ve been in that loop before, back in 2015-18’ in my laptop lifestyle era. Pleasure felt so frivolous and hard work felt safe. I truly believed the lie that the more I do, the more I perform, the more secure I’ll be because no one else was going to do it for me. I have to carry it all. That’s a powerful woman. Forget rest. Forget taking a day off, that’s for losers. I told myself I had to go, go, go every day or risk falling behind. I lived like that until I finally realized my true power wasn’t in doing more than the other girls, or the world… It was in doing less and letting my intuition guide me, not fear. It was in moving from joy, not obligation.

And I tested this way with my own life. I left my hometown and started a podcast with no plan, no rules. Just dancing in the unknown. I found that dancing in the unknown is the secret to universal seduction. But even after knowing this, I still found myself reaching for the familiar sting of struggle.

What is it that makes us lust for the “climb” even when we reach the top of the soft life mountain? Like, omg no matter what I do It never lands. Not the man providing and pampering me, not any amount of money in my business … nothing feels fulfilling.

This is addiction to pain and it finds us at any level of being.

The struggle, the proving, and the bare minimum relationships that make you wait around for the next level, gifts, love, or rest. Or waiting around for money to arrive, but it always slips away claimed by taxes, expenses, or more chaos. All of it’s the same core addiction.

You think you’re manifesting successful outcomes, but you’re really chasing what feels familiar.

And the hard truth is the struggle is what your body calls home.

🧬 Stuck Between Worlds

When you were younger, your brain was neuroplastic, meaning it adapted to whatever you experienced the most.

If love came with pain, unpredictability, or abandonment, your brain learned to associate pain with connection.

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk (author of The Body Keeps the Score) explains that trauma wires the nervous system for hypervigilance, expecting the worst, even when things are good. So, your body doesn’t trust ease because it didn’t learn that ease equals safety. And it’s really that simple.

But I’m going to go a little bit deeper on this. The body isn’t just physical material.
It’s spiritual material in motion. It’s a singularity of memory codes. Every timeline. Every world. Every version of you is stored inside. It’s not just that emotions get trapped and manifest reality. It’s that memories of worlds you no longer live in keep playing on a loop. And so, you get stuck, caught in the illusion that you’re still there when you’re not.

This is not a mindset issue, goddess.

It’s a physiological pattern emanating from the heart. More on that later.. but the heart’s electromagnetic field is 5,000 times stronger than the brain’s. That’s why feminine energetics are more powerful than self-concept work, and why we do things differently here at Ethereal Girl Club.

You can’t hustle your way into the soft life. You recalibrate your body to feel safe in pleasure, and to do this, you activate the heart.

And that’s the work I’ve been doing here in Dubai … building Dream Girl Mystery School from a place where pleasure is my baseline, not my reward.

Let me just go ahead and share the exact ritual I’m using to magnetize more everything while doing less.

💌 Dubai Pleasure Ritual

This ritual is so unique because it comes from simply absorbing the energy here. no partying just slow mornings and slow living. It also reminded me of the truth I teach every day:

Pleasure is the portal and soft living is a strategy.

Step 1: Identify Your Pain Cycle.
Name the loop that feels a little too familiar in relationships, money, or doing more just to feel worthy of receiving ..

• “The over-giver.”

• “The survival self.”

• “The girl who posts 20 times a day.”

• “The one who chases men and money.”

• “The give-all-your-tips-away on social media coach.”
  
  Naming it breaks the spell.

Step 2: Reintroduce Pleasure as Safety.
For the next 3 days, replace doing more with feeling more.

• 10 minutes of slow touch (hands on your body, not for performance, but for presence).

• Drinking tea without multitasking.

• Silk sheets or a guilt-free midday nap

This replaces the hustle as your strategy for more pleasure instead.

The goal is to let pleasure feel normal again.

Step 3: Catch the Resistance.
The urge to check your bank account. To text him back too soon.
To fill the silence with doing.

Pause. Breathe. Stay with the discomfort of doing less.
This is the rewire.

📚 Want to go deeper?

• Podcast: How to Control Your Sense of Pain & Pleasure by Dr. Andrew Huberman (Listen Here)

• Dream Girl Mystery School: My exclusive frequency chamber with 4 focused portals (money, love, beauty, biz), aligned with feminine cycles, designed to rewire your energy for pleasure, overflow, and soft life embodiment 🥂

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With love & magic
Alexa Rose
🎀 Ethereal Girl Club + Dream Girl Mystery School